Friday, May 27, 2011

Divine Mercy for the Physically and Sexually Abused

Divine Mercy, I beg of you to protect all those helpless children who are physically and sexually abused, especially by those whose duty it is to guide and protect them on earth.

Send down Your enveloping cloak of Mercy and wrap it around these poor children and enfold them in Your love and protection.

Send forth Your rays of blood and water to cleanse and renew the souls of those who perpetrate these vile acts of Satan.

Let there be a way to get Your powerful image of Divine Mercy into the homes of these sad families, from where graces will flow as You promise, and they shall be renewed.

O blood and water which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fount of Mercy for us, I trust in You.

Friday, January 21, 2011

BATTERED WOMEN'S SYNDROME - 4 STAGES

Battered Women’s Syndrome is considered to be a form of Post-Traumatic Stress. Battered Women’s Syndrome is a recognized psychological condition that is used to describe someone who has been the victim of consistent and/or severe domestic violence. To be classified as a battered woman, a woman has to have been through two cycles of abuse.

What is a Cycle of Abuse?
A Cycle of abuse is abuse that occurs in a repeating pattern. Abuse is identifiable as being cyclical in two ways: it is both 
generational and episodic
Generational cycles of abuse are passed down, by example and exposure, from parents to children. 
Episodic abuse occurs in a repeating pattern within the context of at least two individuals within a family system. It may involve spousal abuse, child abuse, or even elder abuse. The episodic cycle of abuse is characterized by distinct periods of behavior that eventually result in an extreme episode of verbal and/or physical abuse. Typically, victims of episodic abuse live in denial of this reoccurring pattern.

4 Stages of Battered Women's Syndrome
Stage 1 – Denial
Stage 1 occurs when the battered woman denies to others, and to herself, that there is a problem. Most battered women will make up excuses for why their partners have an abusive incident. Battered women will generally believe that the abuse will never happen again.

Stage 2 – Guilt
Stage 2 occurs when a battered woman truly recognizes or acknowledges that there is a problem in her relationship. She recognizes she has been the victim of abuse and that she may be beaten again. During this stage, most battered women will take on the blame or responsibility of any beatings they may receive. Battered women will begin to question their own characters and try harder to live up their partners “expectations.”

Stage 3 – Enlightenment
Stage 3 occurs when a battered woman starts to understand that no one deserves to be beaten. A battered woman comes to see that the beatings she receives from her partner are not justified. She also recognizes that her partner has a serious problem. However, she stays with her abuser in an attempt to keep the relationship in tact with hopes of future change.

Stage 4 – Responsibility
Stage 4 occurs when a battered woman recognizes that her abuser has a problem that only he can fix. Battered women in this stage come to understand that nothing they can do or say can help their abusers. Battered women in this stage choose to take the necessary steps to leave their abusers and begin to start new lives.
http://www.mamashealth.com/abuse/bwomensyndrome.asp

THE CYCLE OF ABUSE - 3 STAGES

A cycle of abuse occurs in most domestic violence situations. A Cycle of abuse is abuse that occurs in a repeating pattern. Abuse is identifiable as being cyclical in two ways: it is both generational and episodic.


Generational cycles of abuse are passed down, by example and exposure, from parents to children. 
Episodic abuse occurs in a repeating pattern within the context of at least two individuals within a family system. It may involve spousal abuse, child abuse, or even elder abuse.

Stages of Abuse
Domestic violence has 3 main stages. These stages will vary in time and intensity, but they are generally present in all instances of domestic violence.

Stage 1: Tension Building
During stage 1 of domestic violence, small physical assaults may occur. Usually, the victim is able to calm down the abuser through techniques he or she has learned from dealing with the abuser in the past. Many abuse victims will inwardly deny that their partners are abusing them. They may smooth over the small isolated assaults and make excuses for the abusers in their minds. However, many abuse victims do recognize that these small incidents will generally escalate and lead to a bigger, more dangerous incident. Victims seem to take it upon themselves to keep things running smoothly so as not to aggravate the abuser. The psychological stress that a victim endures during this stage is brutal.

Stage Two: Explosion
During stage 2 of domestic violence, nothing the victim can do or say can appease or stop the abuser’s violence. All of the tensions from stage one are released. The abuser has no self-control and can severely injure his or her partner. The abuser is in a blind rage and is oblivious to the damage he or she is inflicting on his or her partner. This phase of the cycle is generally shorter than the other two stages. However, the abuse that a victim endures during this stage is tormenting.

Stage Three: Calm/Relief
Stage 3 of domestic violence is welcomed by both the abuser and the victim. Tension and brutality has been released and loving kindness is put in its place. The abuser will be very remorseful, charming and warm. Promises are made to the victim and the abuser may shed tears. Both the abuser and the victim want to believe that it will never happen again. Stage three is when most victims of domestic violence get the courage to leave.
http://www.mamashealth.com/abuse/cycle.asp

IT'S ALL ON THE ENEMY...

John 10:10 - The enemy comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.
God never intended anyone to suffer. It's horrifying that the "enemy" has penetrated so deep into the world today and that he has blinded so many people with empty promises, lies, hatred, anger and misconceptions.